Feb 14, 2012

Are you okay?

Yep, I'm great.

How are you doing?

I'm fine :) How are you?

How are things going with you?

Pretty good ::nods and smiles::

Lies, lies, lies. I'm not great, I'm not fine, and I'm not okay. I know people don't really want to hear these things when they ask me these questions, so I instead give them the answers they want. I give them the satisfaction of asking me how I'm doing and then spare them the raw, ugly emotions.

I'm glad they ask, it does show they care. I just wish it were acceptable to give people the real answer. Lately, anytime I'm asked one of these questions I slap a smile on my face and fake it. I'm exhausted. Mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted from having to lie all the time.

So, would it be better to not be asked and then not have to fake it or to be asked, give the real answer and deal with the awkward repercussions that are sure to follow OR to keep going as I am - faking my pretty good's, fine's and smiles?


  1. When people ask how I'm doing I answer "Surviving." Because that's honest and yet vauge. And many laugh think I'm trying to be funny. Or say "I hear ya." Because everyone has their own stuff to deal with. Most who ask have no idea what we're dealing with so the answer doesn't bring on more questions. I'm surviving some times one day at a time...but I am surviving. Hope you are too. ((HUGS))

  2. That's a great response to those questions. I may have to try it. It's the truth without oversharing.

  3. Hugs to you. I just drafted a post basically saying this same thing, and decided against posting it, because I don't need my family and friends, who are already worried about me, thinking I'm going to just off a bridge (which I suspect they already worry about). I'm so sorry you are in this boat. I'm in it with you, trying just to stay afloat.

  4. That's one of the reasons I'm so glad my family doesn't know about my blog. And I'm glad there are other people here with me also trying to stay afloat.

  5. You go ahead and do what you gotta do! Good luck through it all, I hope you can take comfort at least that you're not alone (and prayers are coming your way!) :)

  6. I always feel like that is a loaded question... I mean, does the person asking REALLY want to know, or are they just asking because it's the most common question asked? I say, if you don't want to deal with explaining just say you're fine, or doing ok. Sending my thoughts your way.