- Get as much free information as possible. This may mean informational packets, online webinars, free seminars, etc. A lot of agencies give the same info about the process and then only differ in a few ways.
- Get information from at least 20 agencies. Even if you are set on one in particular - I learned something new from each agency packet about the process or I was given another website, resource, or just awesome quote.
- Once you've narrowed your search down to your top 5ish, make random phone calls at all times of the day/week to see how phone friendly they are. This was a big deal for us and we found that a lot of agencies had unfriendly phone and business hours. Also, if your married, have your spouse also call to see if you get the same information, tone, and assistance.
- If they give you definite time-lines, RUN. No one can know for sure when you'll get a referral.
- Ask for references. The good ones will gladly provide some although it may be after you've paid a small fee (usually a small $50-100 fee)
- Ask for a list of preferred home study agencies if they don't do them in house.
- If considering domestic adoption, ask about their birth parent care. Make sure you're choosing an agency that properly takes care of (legally, physically, mentally) the birth family.
- Check online resources - look for agencies with a lot of good reviews, and not just one website. Just because an agency has 5 stars on one website, that doesn't mean they will on all sites and it doesn't mean it's true data.
- If you have a question, ASK IT! If they don't answer your question, ask again. If they still avoid your question, either confront them a third and final time or move on.
- Start talking. A lot more people have been touched by adoption than you realize and will be able to give you good (and sometimes horrible!) advice.
- Ask about financial assistance. That might mean talking to your financial adviser, bank, parent, whoever - just make sure you have a way to pay for things before you start the process.
I think that's mostly it but I'll come back and add to this if I remember a few more things :)
Just wanted to drop by and say hello :) Hope you guys are having a nice summer ((hugs))
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